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carvelye21
Age: 42
Joined: 07 Oct 2011
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When I started doing research for this column, asking what sorts of 5 inch tablet pc fights people have, every single couple said the same thing: “ well, we don’t have really fight about 7 inch tablet pc.” Right, right, right, I’d have to say, backing away from the flame of lies. “ bur we all have the occasional childish squabble, right?” even then people were hesitant. “ well… maybe,” they’d say.
One woman described how her husband took away her credit card one day. Not that they fought about it. Or take another couple I know. I was at their house recently when the husband came home from work with a new 8 inch tablet pc. He hadn’t planed to drop 500 dollars on 10 inch tablet pc that day, he explained, as he unloaded the car, he just saw a classified ad and thought, why not? Although his wife appeared calm while I was there, she told me later that they had a discussion about the fat that they had agreed to save Tablets PC Sale to buy a house –never mind their long-planned trip to Europe this summer – and why did he have to buy a drum set NOW?
What we have here is a failure to communicate.
“It’s a fairly common fight, and it usually happens because the two people involved aren’t on the same page,” says Barbara Steinmets, a financial planner in Burligame, Calif. “ One person thinks they have a shared goal of saving for a house, car or retirement, and the other doesn’t.”
In fact, most fights occur not because of the amount of tablet spent but because of unspoken expectations that couples have and are often afraid to talk about. Sometimes it’s clashing style, sometimes mismatched agendas, but people get so rooted in their own tablet views that they can’t see that their partner simply has a different perspective.
Steinmets described one couple she advised who had this blind spot. The husband first outlined his goals for investing, retirement savings, ect. Steinmets then asked the wife about her goals. “ the husband was shocked to find out his wife had goals - and they were different form his!” she says.
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